Caregiver Assessment Guide
How are you
holding up?
This assessment is for you — the person doing the caregiving. It is not a clinical tool. It is a quiet, honest check-in designed to help you see clearly where you are, so you can decide what you need next. There are no wrong answers. There is no score to be ashamed of.
Click a number to rate each statement: 1 = Never · 2 = Rarely · 3 = Sometimes · 4 = Often · 5 = Almost Always
Physical Wellbeing
Your body keeps the score — even when you ignore it.
I am getting enough sleep (at least 6 uninterrupted hours most nights).
I am eating regular, nourishing meals and staying hydrated throughout the day.
I have been able to keep my own medical appointments this year.
I engage in some form of physical movement or exercise at least a few times a week.
I am not using alcohol, medication, or other substances to cope with caregiving stress.
Emotional Wellbeing
Emotional exhaustion is the most common — and most hidden — form of caregiver strain.
I feel moments of genuine satisfaction or meaning in my caregiving role.
I can express my feelings — sadness, frustration, fear — without shutting down or exploding.
I do not feel a persistent sense of dread or hopelessness about the future.
I am able to feel emotions other than worry — joy, curiosity, humor — at least some of the time.
I do not find myself resenting my loved one for the situation I am in.
Social Connection
Isolation is one of the greatest risks caregivers face — and one of the hardest to see.
I maintain at least one or two meaningful relationships outside of my caregiving role.
I have at least one person I can call when things are hard — who truly understands.
I leave the house for non-caregiving purposes at least a few times each week.
I do not feel that my identity has been entirely consumed by being a caregiver.
Practical Sustainability
Caregiving is a marathon. The structures around you matter as much as your endurance.
I have access to some form of respite — a break from caregiving duties — at least occasionally.
I feel reasonably informed about my loved one's condition and what to expect going forward.
My financial situation feels manageable given the current caregiving demands.
I have some help — from family, professionals, or community — and I am not doing this entirely alone.
I feel I could ask for more help without significant guilt or shame.
Your Score
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Rate the questions above to see your result
76 – 95StableYou are coping well. Continue investing in the habits and support systems that are sustaining you.
57 – 75StretchedYou are managing, but some areas are showing strain. Consider where you could add even small amounts of support.
38 – 56StrainedYou are carrying more than is sustainable. This is the moment to reach out — to family, a professional, or to us.
19 – 37In CrisisYou need support now. Please reach out to someone today. You do not need to justify how much you are struggling.
My Reflections
One small thing I will do this week to care for myself
Additional notes or thoughts
A Note from Avelis
"Asking for help is not a sign that you have failed your loved one. It is how you stay well enough to keep showing up for them. We are here whenever you are ready."